The Adjustment Period

It’s been a while since I’ve been in a serious relationship. A long while. I’ve enjoyed my single life quite a bit. Being single, you live your life a certain way. You come & go as you please, you can flirt with whoever catches your eye, and you have carte ...

Is “Tricking Off” A Gender Neutral Activity Now?

Have you heard the new Brandy – Monica collaboration, It All Belongs To Me? In this gem of a song, the ladies let their boothang(s) know that he needs to leave his laptop, bags, car, etc behind & just take what he came with, because “it all belongs to me” ...

It’s Not You, It’s Me

Shameless plug – I’m doing the Green Bay Half-marathon as part of Team In Training, to benefit the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society. I’d love your support via a tax-deductible donation. There’s a widget at the bottom of the page, or you can follow this link . No donation is too ...

Some Unconventional Thoughts On Marriage

Seems like you can’t log onto Twitter, open a magazine or turn on your tv without someone talking about marriage. People wanna get married, the right people aren’t getting married, too many people don’t stay married – just the tip of the iceberg of the discussions. So it’s a topic ...

Letting Go Of The Fantasy

I thought he was  The One. I was so sure he was The One, that when we jokingly discussed paying the visit to the courthouse, it wasn’t a joke on my part. I was dead serious about signing some papers & taking myself off the market permanently. Between now & ...

Reading The Signs

In my second year of graduate school, I decided to leave my PhD program & instead become a student in the Masters program for science & technology public policy. I really enjoyed the program & my classes, but one thing I didn’t enjoy was the pay. My stipend was much ...

I’m Back In The Dating Game

Since the end of January, I hadn’t been dating. What started out as a coincidence became something that I really needed in my life. I needed the time out – mostly to really recover from the situations with the attorney & the Vegas dude. My heart needed time to heal, I ...

Backup Plans, Check-in Calls, and Other Things I Hate About The Dating Game

I’ve grown to hate dating. Well not the actual “date” part of it. Dates are still great, provided the other person isn’t wack & has some home training. But “dating”, the process of it, I’m so over it. I’ve done this thing since I was 15 & frankly, I’m frustrated ...

Feeling Like I Wasted Too Much Time

Over the past week, I was engrossed in a new book – Michele Grant’s Heard It All Before. This isn’t a “new” book, but it was new to me and I finally got around to reading it. The book is about the various challenges that two friends face in their ...

Asking For Your Mate’s Permission

My girl LM had a very interesting conversation with two male co-workers yesterday. The highlights: They can’t go on vacation without their girlfriends (whaaaaaa?). Their girlfriend’s can’t go on vacation without them, because apparently women are guaranteed to cheat when they are unchaperoned. Said cheating is especially prevalent on cruises ...