I was talking to a friend the other night…discussing his love life, specifically a date he had lined up. Then he tells me about another woman he met, and he described her as having “Michelle Obama swag”. I asked him for a definition…and he had nothing (boooooooooooooo!).
All I could do was *sigh*
It was bad enough when every chick had a FB status message proclaiming that they were looking for their Barack…now the men are in on this thing too? For real yall? Every college-educated Black person is looking their Barack or Michelle?
I’m all for folks having standards. Yall know there are way too many folks out there who either have no standards, or they are so low that midgets can hurdle over them, so I support that folks have standards & attributes that they are seeking in a future mate.
Am I the only one who bothered by this whole idea of holding the Obamas as some kind of Black marriage Holy Grail? Yes, they are a fabulous, successful couple that the entire world stans for, including me. Yes, they seem to genuinely love & support each other. But they aren’t the be-all end-all perfect couple with the perfect marriage. They’ve been pretty candid about the issues they’ve had in their marriage and how they had to work & compromise to keep their family intact. I think its dangerous to romanticize anybody else’s relationship…because when you get in your own, & its a lot harder than you imagined it to be, you’re more apt to just give up on the whole thing.
Not to mention, there’s the whole entitlement factor. We already got chicks out there thinking that dudes who don’t have power locks aren’t good enough for them…Now you gotta be an Ivy League educated attorney, former Senator & President of the United States to satisfy these women? And the men aren’t off the hook either…its bad enough women are getting lacefronts and butt implants to impress men, now the ladies gotta get multiple degrees and be able to run a hospital by day & take care of the kids by night. The crazy part is that a lot of the folks who have such impossible standards, actually dont meet them themselves. What kind of sense does that make?
Now granted, its been a very long while since we’ve had such a couple to aspire to. Not since the Huxtables have young Black people had a power couple that was so prevalent in society to look towards as an example. But at the same time, I think for a lot of folks its just a setup for failure…mostly cause most folks aren’t smart enough or deep enough to glean a specific message from the Obamas, or even the Huxtables. Too many folks are looking for those “resume” attributes when choosing a mate, when instead they should look at the relationship characteristics that their example couple exhibits & using that as a guide. Maybe you shouldn’t only date attorneys, but instead look for someone who is willing to compromise their goals for the good of the family as a whole. Maybe instead of looking for a mate that’s balling out of control, look for one who stands behind you & your choices 100%.