It’s Not Ungrateful To Want More Or Something New

I’m pissed off so excuse this stream-of-consciousness rant I’m finna go on, thanks*

Ever notice how some people just can’t let you vent, or even just share how you feel about a topic, without reminding you how much worse your situation could be? Am I the only one who is extremely annoyed & frustrated with that?

You know what I’m talking about…it goes like this:

“I really hate my job, it’s stressing me out so much that I’m having constant headaches.” “Well it could be worse, you could be unemployed! And living in a cardboard box on the side of the road!”

“My arm has been really hurting me lately” “Well it could be worse, you could have had your arm ripped off by a shark!”

“My S/O has made me unhappy lately, maybe we should break up” “Well it could be worse, you could be alone! With a bunch of cats!”

I hate hate hate people like that. HATE.

Real talk, wanting something more or something new in an area of your life that makes you unhappy does not make you ungrateful. Not at all. Could things be worse? Absolutely. But you have no idea what that person is going through, and how difficult their situation really is. The last thing they want to hear is “well it could be worse”.

Fuckouttahere.

Sometimes you should just listen. Be encouraging. Helpful. Helpful is not “let me point out how selfish you are in comparison to people who have it worse than you”.That’s not very nice. Or supportive. That’s just being a jackass. And it sucks. And it just pisses the person off…like me.

It’s no secret that I’ve wanted a new job for a long time. I’ve put up with a lot but what I won’t put up with condescending crap about how selfish I am to want a new job since I’m already employed. Do I want to be one of the millions of people out here looking for work? Nope, sure don’t. But I also loathe getting up & going to a job that makes me grind my teeth at night & drives me to tears. It’s not worth it. And I won’t be made to feel bad because I want, no I need a change in my employment situation. For my mental health, my physical health, my sanity level, my stress level, I need to get out of this job. That doesn’t make me a bad person.

Sometimes you just need to let people feel what they feel, without the judgment.

 

 

  • Ctwaits1

    I concur wholeheartedly with you on this one. It does get annoying when people do that.

  • Andrew

    I offer a hug and a inbox to vent to.

  • Anonymous

    I feel you because I have a good job, meaning the people I work with, but I need to make more money, and they’re not challenging me mentally. Yes I’m grateful to have my job and I wouldn’t take something that didn’t offer a substantial increase in pay. But wanting a better job doesn’t make me ungrateful, it makes me want better. Hell my child will be going to college in 4 years!

    But just like the other examples you gave, some people are just insensitive that way! And don’t get me started on the ones that have to one up your story when you’re trying to vent. “Bitch this is supposed to be about me!”

  • Nunya

    mainly its because people don’t want to hear it.  If you want people to stop telling you it could be worse why don’t you keep your rant to yourself.  It will solve both problems