It’s beautiful to see two people go through the joy s of falling in love and becoming a couple. Love makes everyone happier.
I’m not in love, I’m not even dating, and for the first time since I was 15-16 years old, I am ok with that fact, and actually enjoying that I’m alone. Relationships and men had become such a huge part of my life, to the point that it was unhealthy, and now I feel so free…..
I had a conversation with my old friend T last night, and in that conversation, I remembered something that I had forgotten: Words have power. You can speak your situation into existence. During my lonely phase, I continually spoke on how I would end up alone, and how I was destined to be an old maid, and all that jazz….What a big mistake that was.
In our conversation, I was reminded of a book I read years ago, The Four Agreements.
This book teaches you how to apply four basic principles to your life, in order be happier and more at peace with yourself. The first agreement is “Be impeccable with your word”. This means to realize that words have power, thus you must always mean what you say and say what you mean. Choose your words carefully because they become truth once they come out of your mouth.
I realized that I had been speaking myself into a life of loneliness and sadness, by focusing on a negative. While it wasn’t my intention to actually end up an old maid, and I was instead simply trying to be funny, my continual references to ending up sad and alone became so common that I actually had to stop myself from saying those words, because I was so used to speaking them. I had to actually force myself to think more positive thoughts about my romantic situation. I’m not saying that I’m trying to “will” love into my life, I’m simply saying that I realized that my words were voicing how I truly felt inside, and also influencing my feelings and moods. So I am back to being “impeccable with my word” and realizing that I need to speak truth with every statement I make.