I had like a million thoughts in my head today, so this may come out disjointed…oh well, I tried.
Yall know I’ve been dating the attorney…its been good, but I’ve been flummoxed about “us” & what was going on. When we first started dating it was all about keeping it light & fun, cause he’s all in work-mode…but I got caught up & caught feelings. It happens, #sueme. We had a long rambling talk this weekend (which started in an art museum & ended in a Dairy Queen – both weird places to have a relationship talk)…and at the end of the day the ball is in my court. He’s fine with everything & won’t change, but why would he? Everything is in his favor right now. I’m the one who’s unhappy so I will have to be the one to decide if I walk or not. Right now its leaning towards walk.
While I was trying to figure out what I was going to do, I asked some folks for advice…and the responses I got were totally dependent on one factor: gender. All the men said one thing, and all the women said something completely different, which I found to be very interesting. The men said I should stick with him & let him be all about work right now, while the women said they would have walked a long time ago. I don’t know if this is related, but the majority of the men are either married or in relationships, while the majority of women are single & not dating #kanyeshrug I’m the type to make up my own mind, but the different perspectives gave me stuff to consider.
Chopped it up with a male friend recently who lamented his super single status – he has no gf, boo, FwB, jump-off, nothing. And he’s unhappy, depressed, all that stuff. It struck me as kinda odd. I know folks always talk about how bad it is out here for women…but does anyone talk about how hard it is for men? I think we all assume that men have it so easy, that they can find the right woman to date/love/marry with little to no effort. But clearly that’s not true, men go through the same bouts of insecurity & unhappiness over their lovelifes as women do. I found myself giving my friend the same “it’ll happen before you know, don’t worry about it, just have fun & enjoy life” advice that I hate when folks give me…funny how that works, isn’t it? Its great advice, but sometimes you just need to wallow…and maybe that’s what he needed to do.