Revisiting the Cuddle Buddy Thing

A couple winters ago I wrote about how I needed a cuddle buddy cause I was so cold & so single & I needed someone to snuggle with.

Men are still falling all over themselves to proclaim how they don’t believe in cuddle buddies & how they would never do it & blah blah blah…but we allllllll know that a lot of chicks have cuddle buddies & chicks aren’t cuddling with each other…so clearly some dudes are cool with this arrangement.

But this post isn’t to debate the merits of the cuddle buddy…well not really.

I would LOVE to know if any of you men who actually fulfill the role do it because you’re just trying to f*ck. And if that is your reason…do you give up when it becomes apparent that you’ll never get any?

I don’t see what the big deal is abt being a cuddle buddy – why is it such a bad thing? Yall men don’t like to be held? To feel the closeness of another human being? If you do it right, you can at least feel on her booty…so what’s the problem? Or is the problem that you can’t lay up with a chick that you aren’t humping?

That’s unfortunate if that is the answer.

I might just have to get myself a winter boo…

  • q_crush

    U already know my stance lol… Dudes only cuddle with chicks they feel that they have no chance of being with so they figure some affection is better than none. And yes most guys cuddle with the intent of eventually going for more. And back in my random cuddle days, u cuddle long enough with me u WILL want more *pops collar, smoothes waves out* lol

  • Realist

    You are thinking as a female. No, heterosexual men do not just want to be held by a female. If a man is not attracted to a female sexually, then he would not want the relationship/friendship jeopardized with the risk of feelings being developed from her. Cuddling to a man means eventually sex will occur. Whether that is 6 minutes or 6 months from now, sex is the ultimate goal. If you have had a male cuddle buddy for longer than a few months with no attempt by him to smash then you have found the exception, not the norm.

    Sex is on a man’s mind in some form or fashion the majority of his adult life. That’s just nature, men are built to procreate. 85 million sperm is produced per DAY on average by a male. Compare this to the quarter of a million eggs a female is BORN with never to create more. So if you cannot understand a man’s ultimate intentions, be it wanted or unwanted, then you deny nature and its design. However, humans are evolved and we have the ability to choose not to let nature control us.

    A man will cuddle and cuddle but only to a point….blue balls are terrible thing and must be avoided at all cost!

  • *applause for the above comments*
    No man’s goal is *just* cuddling! I just can’t see it. It doesn’t compute in my brain. Look at what he’s giving up:

    1. Could be in bed BY MYSELF, stretching out #nshit
    2. Could be working on another woman, one who’s actually gonna put out

    The only reasons to give all that up are 1. Love 2. I need some sex and can’t find a chick for the #2 attempt.

    All that malarkey about needing to be held, applies only to yall. Sure being held is aight, sheed she can hold you while you pound her vag! Otherwise take yo simp-ass home!

  • ok Realist. I’m a woman and I think its wack too. always have. lol. could just be because I’m moody and don’t really want to be bothered with people most of the time, anyway.

    Sex isn’t everything, but I don’t really want someone all up on my person that I don’t see “in that way”. I have a body pillow and an electric blanket in the meanwhile…I’m so good on spooning without some optional forking…

  • Dappa

    No straight man worth his salt is going to be content with just hugging or cuddling a woman, never. I think that needs to get out of a woman’s head quickly.

  • This is absolutely, positively the most absurd notion ever. Cuddling without penetration went out in high school (junior high if you were among the super fast).

    I’m not even sure where to start with this one:
    “Men are still falling all over themselves to proclaim how they don’t believe in cuddle buddies & how they would never do it & blah blah blah”

    Because only suckers are cuddle buddies.

    “I don’t see what the big deal is abt being a cuddle buddy – why is it such a bad thing? Yall men don’t like to be held?”

    You’re right, it’s not a bad thing… it’s horrific. If I wanted to be held I’d buy a body pillow and a heated blanket. The bed is for two things, sleep and sex (and not necessarily in that order).

    “If you do it right, you can at least feel on her booty…so what’s the problem?”

    Yeah… that went out in high school.

    “Or is the problem that you can’t lay up with a chick that you aren’t humping?”

    This is precisely what it is. Which is not to say that I’m some wild barbarian and can’t control myself. However, if we’re not doing the grown up, there’s no reason for me to be spending MULTIPLE nights at your house.

  • Thecomedianpreach

    There’s nothing wrong with it
    imma heterosexual man an I’ve done it
    the reason why is that I can have sex with at least 3-5 random females in my phone at any time..
    I love sex and would do it all day however
    sex just to have sex got played out in college
    But I’m different ….putting my flesh beneath me doesn’t seem wrong to me

  • Nick

    I’m a 28 yo guy who loves to cuddle. But I wouldn’t say I do it as a gateway to sex. If it happens I’m not going to day no. But it was no means my intent. I just want that confirting feeling of snuggling up with someone. I’ve had 3 or 4 long term cuddle buddies come and go and
    It never got sexual gutsy a guy and girl sharing a bed and enjoying the company 🙂