Sometimes The Best Comment Is No Comment

Over the past year or so, I’ve learned a very valuable lesson – to keep my damn mouth shut.

Might seem weird. I’m sure some of y’all are thinking “umm, but Jubes, isn’t that something you should have learned a long time ago?”. What can I say, sometimes I’m slow.

There used to be a time where I believed that being an open book meant sharing everything about myself with anyone who asked or was willing to listen. I didn’t (and still don’t) have the same hangups about things that most people do, and I was not afraid to share things about my life with relative strangers. I believed that being open & honest with people made me a free spirit…but instead it made me a victim of the opinions & judgments of others. I was hurt over & over by the slings & arrows that others threw at me, not realizing that I was giving them ammunition they were using to shoot at me.

Do I still share? Absolutely. It’s kind of hard to be a personal blogger & not share things. But I’ve learned that everything isn’t meant for everyone’s consumption. People can only judge you on what they know about you, or at least think they know. Sure people may gossip or outright lie, but I can’t control that. But I can control what information I share about myself. Do I still answer questions? Of course. Will I always answer questions in an open forum or volunteer information? Probably not, though for now I’m working on a case by case basis.

Beyond keeping more of my life private, keeping my mouth shut has also brought down my stress level considerably when dealing with dumbass people. I used to be a person who could not avoid going on a rant when my ears and eyes were accosted by some idiot behavior. I have learned to simply note the dumbass-ery & keep it moving. Going on Twitter rants about idiots won’t make them any smarter, and I’m firmly convinced that a lot of crap I see nowadays is done purely for shock value. Sorry, but I refuse to drink the controversy Kool-Aid. It’s much easier & less stressful to just let things go. Of course there are some instances where I can not hold my tongue, but my days of ranting & raving about the stupid things I see are few & far between.

The adage “silence is golden” is truly a gem.

  • Anonymous

    Knowing is half the battle..LOL!

  • let me tell you i learn this lesson time and time again. one day it will actually stick. good post.

  • My mother was always the one to say “keep your business to yourself”. Over the years I learned thats true and generally im careful of who I tell what. I think knowing who to tell what is just as important as knowing when to keep quiet. Many people know a capter of my life but no one knows the entire book. This is a problem im having with my step mother now because she is the type to share her whole life story and im not. So now im accused of being distant. whatever.