I’ve been blogging for a while, and one thing I’ve never really done is censor myself.
Granted, some topics will never be discussed here. Some things are just inappropriate for public display, some things I’m not willing to allow others to see. With what I do discuss, I try to be sensitive, especially when it concerns other people – no real names, sometimes even no real initials,I use nicknames instead. I figure the people who interact with me didn’t sign up to be put on display so I have to respect their privacy while also balancing my desire to share parts of my life.
Blogging abt my relationships is one of those tricky things. It should be fair game, because its my life & I can discuss what I want on my blog. But it involves another person, so balancing exactly what’s said can be difficult. Over the years I’ve blogged about boos, potential boos, ex-boos, etc. – some read the blog & some didn’t; some knew abt the blog & knew they would show up. The vast majority have no cared, tho I have had a couple “well I read your blog & you said blah blah blah” moments.
I wrote about something relationship-related, but I’ve been struggling with whether or not to publish it. In the post, I reference a dating situation, tho I never use a name, nickname or initials. I’m struggling because I know the person in the situation reads my blog (or at least used to) and also mutual friends/acquaintances also read my blog as well. It’s not my intention to air the person out, make them look bad, etc. I’m not trying to be passive-aggressive – everything I said in the post has already been said to the person. Yes, there is some less than stellar comments in the post…but hey, that’s life. And I actually said way worse on the Twitter.
I don’t want to seem like I’m bitter, or trying to get back at them, or trying to make them look bad. I wrote abt it initially because I learned something from the experience & I wanted to share what I learned. I also know that publishing this post will be the proverbial “nail in the coffin” and I’m not 100% sure that I want to do that, even though it’s probably for the best.
I’m trying to figure out what is the best approach to this situation. I’ve never had these types of questions, or this level of apprehension about a post, not even when I knew the person I wrote about read my blog faithfully. I think the fact that the person in question & I have mutual acquaintances that read my blog is the obstacle for me. That, and just my general aversion to completely closing a door on someone.
Any thoughts? Ever been in this situation before? How did you handle it?